by Michele Adler
For a significant union of anything to occur, the charts of both parties should have a number of factors activated. Those factors include Sun/Moon aspects, Venus/Mars aspects, and aspects involved with the ruler of the 7th and/or 5th houses, or with the natal Ascendant.
Marriage indicators in one chart do not necessarily mean they exist in another person's chart. It may be apparent that there are major connections between two people in the natal chart (his Sun conjunct your Moon, your Venus conjunct his Mars, etc.). Permanent unions, however, seem to occur when there are appropriate indicators in transits, progressions, and solar arc directions.
Before predicting for marriage or a relationship - or anything else - you should examine your natal chart to see what the natal chart says about your own attitudes toward relationships.
For example, are there strong indications that your chart suggests independence (Sun/Uranus, Venus/Uranus conjunctions, Mars/Pluto aspects), and will that work against you in the compromising and adjustments necessary to share a life with someone else? How strong is Saturn in your chart, because it can symbolize the endurance necessary for a long-term relationship.
The 7th House
Look at the sign on the natal 7th house. It can tell you a lot about your attitude toward others. This same attitude will likely prevail through any partnership that you might have. It may well be true that we fall in love with the same person over and over—they just have different names.
The 7th house cusp can say a lot about who that prototype person could be. What are the aspects made by the 7th house ruler? If it's Venus, for example, and Venus is conjunct, squaring or opposing Pluto natally, you may be attracted to dangerous partners, or people who create an intensity that might be difficult to sustain on a long-term basis. Or you may pursue relationships that need to be kept secret. Pluto's involvement also suggests that obsession may sometimes be mistaken for love.
If the 7th house ruler is Neptune, or if it resides there, and it is in challenging aspect to the Moon or Sun, you may find that you over-idealize potential partners, who can never live up to your rose-colored view of them. This can ultimately set you up for disappointment.
This essay is taken from Michele Adler's book "Predictive Astrology: Cycles of Change, Seasons of Meaning".
If Uranus is in challenging aspect to the ruler of the 7th, or if Uranus is in the 7th house, there is an initial excitement in relationships that you expect to sustain over the long-term. You can become bored when that isn't the case. Uranus also indicates sudden separations, which can end a relationship before it's off the ground. A strong Uranian presence in a chart may also render a person far too independent for a committed long-term relationship.
The presence of Pluto in the 7th house or ruling it means one will likely have to redefine a marriage or a partnership to make it work. (Some astrologers have observed that you never acquire the needs symbolized by the house in which Pluto resides - for example, Pluto in the 7th seeks the intimacy of a powerful one-on-one relationship that it never attains. I don't entirely agree with this observation. I think the natal house where Pluto resides requires that you surrender your expectations about the matters of that house before you find peace with it. In some instances, this may mean giving up expectations of what you want before you finally realize the joy of obtaining what you need.) Some people with very strong natal Pluto placements can be addicted to intensity and passion, and become easily disillusioned in a relationship where they don't have it.
Many people want marriages or long-term commitments for reasons other than love or companionship. A woman who seeks a partner for financial reasons may find one when her natal 2nd or 8th house or its rulers are activated, as those are the money houses. A person who wishes to marry for status may do so, but it could be shown under an aspect to the ruler of the 10th house or a planet in the 10th, which deals with status. In such cases, the ruler of the 7th may be making aspect by transit or progression to the ruler of these "motive" houses.
Author's Note: While the book's original text emphasized aspects, declinations should also be taken into consideration. In the case of people who marry for status, for example, there could well be a declination of Venus and the Midheaven, or Jupiter and the Midheaven, either natally or in progressed declinations at the time of the marriage.
Most people don't keep track of the times when they meet other people. However, most people usually remember the day of the meeting of someone significant, and that is useful to a certain extent.
The following are some things that can hint of a more serious relationship in the making. (Please note that these are transits and progressions for the time in which you meet someone, or when a relationship begins. This doesn't refer to natal aspects or to synastry.)
One of the other person's (OP) natal planets is conjunct one of your directed or progressed planets at the time of the meeting. It is an interesting astrological quirk that significant meetings tend to occur when a natal planet in one person's chart is conjunct a directed or progressed planet in another person's. Naturally, if you know the moment that you met, you can construct a chart and note what planets are affecting the Ascendant (in both your chart and the OP's).
Transiting Jupiter is conjunct your natal Mars or Venus or the OP's natal Mars or Venus. This can sometimes result in a certain giddiness or light-heartedness about the person. It can also coincide with a great deal of optimism about the other person. I would advise waiting until the Jupiter transit is over before assessing the relationship.
Progressed Venus or Mars is semi-sextiling another planet. The progressed semi-sextile (30 degrees) is a time-honored aspect for its presence at the start of significant relationships, whether it's the first time you meet or at the time of an actual union.
Progressed aspects involving the ruler of the natal 5th for romance, and the natal 7th for marriage or partnerships. Frequently a significant meeting will take place when the ruler of the natal 5th is involved in a progressed aspect with the Sun, Moon, Venus, Mars or the Nodal axis.
Trines between Venus and Uranus can herald a sudden meeting with someone exciting, but the permanence is in question due to Uranus' unpredictable and independent ways.
The progressed Sun aspecting the ruler of the 5th house (for a romantic relationship) or the 7th (for a permanent relationship).
When the midpoints of natal and progressed planets are activated, such as the midpoint of progressed Venus and natal Venus being conjunct, opposing or squaring a natal or progressed planet in another's chart. (This is also true of the midpoints of the other progressed planets with their natal planets, such as the progressed Mars/natal Mars midpoint, or progressed Sun/natal Sun midpoint, or progressed Ascendant/natal Ascendant.) The nature of the planet will state something about the relationship. If it involves Pluto, there can be an "all-or-nothing" feel to the meeting; if it's on Uranus, the relationship may be off-and-on for many years; if it's on Mars, there could be a strong sexual element initially.
When the natal Sun/Moon midpoint or progressed Sun/Moon midpoint is activated. The Sun/Moon midpoint is an important midpoint for relationships. If there is Ascendant involvement with this midpoint ( someone's natal Ascendant conjunct your progressed Sun/Moon midpoint, for example, or perhaps your progressed Sun/Moon midpoint aspecting someone else's natal or progressed Mars or Venus), there is a likelihood of meeting someone. Note that the converse progressed and converse directed Sun/Moon midpoints can also be applied here.
When there is a progression activating the pre-natal solar eclipse point in your chart or in the OP's chart. The pre-natal eclipse carries a fated quality with it. Progressions to it can sometimes coincide with life-changing events or meetings
The ruler of the natal 1st forming an aspect by transit or progression to the ruler of the natal 7th. These can be challenging or easy aspects.
Progressed or solar arc (SA) directed Moon conjunct the natal Descendant or in the 7th house. The secondary progressed Moon will be conjunct the Descendant for about a month or more, and will be in the 7th house for a little over two years. The solar arc directed Moon will stay on the Descendant for a year, and this will almost always bring about a major life change. (Note: It may not be marriage or a partnership, despite the 7th house involvement.) The solar arc Moon moves one degree per year, so it will stay in your natal 7th house for a long time. (This can also indicate a more public role for you, in addition to partnership implications.) The secondary progressed Moon stays in a house for about 2-1/2 years, though there can be an overlap in the houses.
Author's note: The secondary progressed Moon in Libra is traditionally thought to be a good placement for a time in which a relationship develops. I think this may be true when the Moon is between 00 and 10 degrees of Libra. As it moves into the Aquarian decanate (10-20 degrees) and the Gemini decanate (20-30 Libra), it may be less likely.
Sextiles to natal Venus and progressed Venus or to the ruler of the natal 7th house. Sextiles present opportunities.
The solar return for the year of meeting is heavy with Libra planets. Note the converse solar return also. The solar return Moon in Libra is a key indicator of a partnership opportunity during the year, especially if it occupies the 1st, 4th, 7th or 10th houses. Libra rising in a return chart is also an indicator. (If you have Libra rising in a solar return, find the lunar return after your birthday that also has Libra rising to hone in on the time frame for an important meeting. You can hone this down even further by noting what time of the year you will have Libra rising in the diurnal charts.*)
The solar return Venus or Mars tied with the natal Sun/Moon midpoint or the solar return's Sun/Moon midpoint. Remember that if Venus and Mars are in the solar return, they are part of the year's transits. The tie to the midpoint is usually a conjunction. The opposition, square, semi-square or sesquiquadrate aspect might also indicate a relationship, but one that has an obvious set of challenges from the beginning.
Progressed planets moving into the natal or progressed 7th house can coincide with important meetings, particularly if the planet is Venus or Mars or the Sun or Moon.
Solar eclipses and New Moons in the natal or progressed 5th or 7th houses. An eclipse in the 5th or 7th house accentuates relationship matters. (This is true even if you're already married. An eclipse can certainly challenge weak spots in a marriage if it falls in the 7th house. A 5th house eclipse can indicate the birth of a child, a guarantee of changing any relationship. ) The New Moon is less potent than a New Moon (solar) eclipse. However, it may conjunct, oppose or square a progressed or directed planet, as well as a converse progressed or directed planet. In this case, it becomes a lightning rod for the matters of that planet. If the planet is connected with the 5th or 7th houses, it will affect relationships. This also applies to planets in the solar return and the converse solar return.
Author's note: A Full Moon or a Full Moon Lunar Eclipse is not, in my opinion, as powerful as the solar eclipse. But Full Moons can bring things to fruition. A Full Moon Eclipse does not usually end a relationship, but it can change it significantly.
Solar Return activated 2nd house. Some years back, I tested a large number of solar return charts of men for the year in which they married. In most cases, it was the second house that was activated, no doubt acknowledging that most men were contemplating their changed financial picture upon marriage, and their role in supporting a family. This may not be the case now, as many households have two-career couples. But an activated SR 2nd house can occur in years of important meetings that lead to permanent unions.
Activation of the progressed or natal Ascendant in either person's charts usually occurs at a meeting or during the year that the relationship is developing. It is an old astrological axiom that no relationship ever becomes permanent unless there are significant aspects to the Ascendants of the involved individuals. However, the progressed Ascendant can often be part of this axiom. Frequently one meets significant others at equally significant progressed times.
The solar return Ascendant of a particular year falling in the 5th or 7th natal houses, or the natal Ascendant coinciding with the 7th house cusp (Descendant) in a solar return chart. (The latter could be indicative of a major year regardless of whether a marriage or a romantic relationship takes place.)
The diurnal Ascendant* or Descendant for the day of a meeting is tied to a significant transiting, progressed or directed planet. The diurnal Ascendant and Descendant will conjunct the natal, progressed and directed planets once each year. In addition, the 5 th and 7th house cusps of the diurnal chart will be conjuncting a progressed or directed planet at least once a year. The diurnals can be very revealing of specific days when some important meetings can occur.
Nodal involvement in your own chart or with planets in someone else's. Among the many definitions of the North Node/ South Node is that of connections. While that can manifest on many different levels, it can also manifest in relationships. If you meet someone when either of you has progressed or directed planets conjunct the other's Nodal axis, you may feel instantly "connected" with this individual. I have noticed in some cases that South Node connections with planets in someone else's charts can occasionally manifest as long-term connections. I have seen Saturn/South Node involvement in relationships that have spanned over 45 years. However, the individuals were not in constant contact with each other. One instance was of two people who managed to keep getting together every 10 years or so, coinciding with endings of marriages to other people. I put this in the "go figure" category.
Diurnal Ascendants.* Ascendants of both parties can also be making interesting aspects on the day that they meet for the first time. This can be especially true if the diurnal is also conjunct a progressed, directed or natal planet or angle. It is not uncommon for diurnals to be swapped: for example, you have six degrees of Capricorn rising on your diurnal, and the other person has six degrees of Cancer rising on his/her diurnal on the day you meet.
Specific Charts for Relationships
There are a number of relationship chart options available on most software. The composite chart is probably the best known. It is composed of the combined midpoints of each person's planets and angles. I have not worked with this chart for prediction possibilities. I have heard other astrologers say that it is useful for understanding the purpose of the relationship.
The chart of the moment that two people meet
As mentioned earlier, it's not often that anyone has exact data for this chart. If you do have it, it can be as sensitive to transits, progressions and eclipses as any natal chart.
(Author's note: Since this book was written, I have heard of another technique similar to this. In The Mountain Astrologer (April/May 2019) there is a fine article called "A Mystic Looks at Astrology" by Ray Grasse (p.40), and is taken from his book on mystic/occultist Shelly Trimmer, which is entitled "An Infinity of Gods." Trimmer suggests that if a person comes into your life, mark the exact moment it happens and then move your horoscope to that exact moment. "For instance, let's say the Ascendant right then is 10 Taurus. Move your own chart around so that 10 Taurus is on the Ascendant. Now you can tell what this person means to you," he says.)
The chart for the marriage
Example: A couple that I know married under a Moon-Pluto opposition. It symbolized the constant struggle in their marriage between the bride and her mother-in-law, as they occupied the same household for many years.I know that electional astrology can identify good times for the wedding, but there will be challenging aspects in any selected time. (The astrologer has to pick the time when things look best, usually having to work within a certain time span in which the wedding can take place.)